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Somebody was asking the other day why consistency is so important, and I considered the issue deserves some reflection. Consistency is the basis of authority, of the straight, rightful path.  Inconsistency invalidates our own convictions, destroys any basis for authority over ourselves or over others, disqualifies us as examples or models to be followed. Because it can’t be confirmed by personal behaviour, an inconsistent opinion lacks the necessary value or moral authority to be taken in consideration.

 

We become what we defend, if we defend foolishness we’ll end up as fools. Therefore, whoever defends a fool is attacking the wise man and wisdom because,  as a wise man once  said,  “we cannot serve two masters”.

 

This is typical when in the absence of arguments to defend something we resort to the “the best defence is an attack” attitude, in most cases an indiscriminate attack. But such attitude only shows that there are no  arguments or authority to base the defence on and that we should admit our mistake and change our opinion … something quite natural and normal for an educated ego, but difficult for an un-educated one.

 

But not only that, by defending a thief or a fool we may be trying to justify our own tendencies to theft or foolishness and if we are understanding and tolerant with a crime we are being accomplices to it, allowing our “inner criminal” to let his destructive instincts run free.

 

All of which implies an inexorable danger in the Law of Attraction:  whoever defends evil, ignorance or crime will be in the future a victim of evil and the wicked, of ignorance and  the ignorant, of crime and criminals. A daring attitude, defending evil in this Universe, as in the long run we are always subject to its implacable Laws.

 

The only way of escaping a negative Law of Attraction is to remain as faithful SEEKERS OF GOOD based on a sound CONSISTENCY.

 

As an exception, we could say that inconsistency is only “excusable” when it is the result of ignorance or  is based on good intention. But still, as in the principle of justice, ignorance of the Law does not exempt from compliance, even more so in the case of the Law of Attraction. So all we can do is to be aware of the Laws of the Universe and try to follow them because in the long run they will keep our souls in the Light, away from darkness. Nobody said it was an easy task, and yet it is the most important challenge mankind has to face if it wishes to continue enjoying life on this Planet.

 

Beatriz Fernández del Castillo

http://www.autoevolucion.com

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This year I have had the opportunity to identify some people who were the perfect embodiment of the pattern of an emotional predator. In spite of their different ages and the fact that they belonged to different generations, their speech, their attitude, their modus operandi, were so similar that they were the perfect example of a very common behaviour in our time: that of the emotional predator.  I must say it is more frequent among men than among women.

A pattern is a system of ideas, emotions, attitudes and behaviours that  governs human beings and organizes them according to predictable, identifiable behavioural patterns.  People who think alike usually feel the same and have similar attitudes and actions.

Archetypes would be the source of these patterns, the original ones, according to Plato the perfect moulds, ideals deriving from the mind of God, ideals that influence us from the collective unconscious. Patterns are human derivations that are far less than perfect, resulting from change, from the world, from life, from circumstances, etc. … The world changes and by extension so do the collective patterns that rule us.

Although many people compare them, emotional predators are different from emotional vampires. Emotional predators are only after their own emotional advantage –generally involving sexual advantage-  regardless of any collateral damage they might cause. They are hedonistic, they are apparently happy, they are manipulators and they know well  other people’s weaknesses which they use to their own advantage. They usually have good social skills, are sexually attractive and have brilliant personalities in some aspects, although they also lack empathy and  don’t understand or notice the damage they cause in others.

How do we spot them? I’ll use as examples two cases, a man and a woman whom I have come across recently. Both are apparently charming and attractive, but they have  different motivations. He is the typical predator,  only prompted by the sheer pleasure of the conquest and oblivious of  the pain he may cause to his prey.  She is not so typical, she is moved by the pleasure of feeling loved and valued, but she is equally remorseless when she misuses her charm with others. None of the two wish to change, they show an apparent but ultimately false self-confidence and during the “hunt”  they both forget the main law that rules this Universe, that of CAUSE and EFFECT, which will  make them in turn the victims of other predators equally heedless of their suffering. Unfortunately, those who answer to this pattern, due to their lack of empathy, only learn by experiencing a taste of their own medicine.

They justify their attitude by saying that they warn others in advance of their intentions; they speak openly of their sexuality showing off in this aspect and  some of them even scorn the good use of relationships and sex, using others with complete disregard for their wellbeing.

The pattern of the good lover would be to use –not abuse-  the other, caring for and trying to benefit him or her .

In their eagerness to justify their own conduct, no matter how unacceptable, they  argue  that they respect any sexual attitude, ultimately trying to make others accept their conducts so as to ensure their power and their territory.

But they are also victims of themselves, even if they appear happy and cool; they dread serious relationships and always move in shallow waters.  As soon as anybody comes too near they scare away in their weakness,  end up eaten up by solitude, falling back into the vicious circle of the compulsive hunter, hoping to fill the void of a life without true love, full of emotional to’s and fro’s which they take for passion. Many of them in their childhood or as teenagers were victims of other predators and have eventually become one of them.  But that does not relieve them from responsibility, more importantly it should be treated as a challenge to end  the victim-aggressor circle.

The problem lies in the possible unsuspecting victims that cannot identify the emotional danger, no matter how obvious it appears. The lack of self-esteem prevents them from rejecting a charming person who approaches them showing interest and affection, even if false, self-interested or momentaneous; men or women with a feeling of emptiness, or who have gone through difficult circumstances in their lives, or have grown up without a family or essential values will always make an easy prey. If they fall into a predator’s clutches they may think it is an acceptable attitude and become one of them, there is a part of society that encourages and even values such behaviours.

If you come across an emotional predator and he or she is looking at you as their possible target, just wait, it won’t take long before they show their true colours. It is not a good idea to think one can  save them, a mistake  many naïve souls make in their eagerness to help and which they usually pay dearly for.  Always remember that  “two can’t play if one doesn’t want to”.

And if you acknowledge yourself as one of them, remember the film “Fatal Attraction” (Glenn Close and Michael Douglas), or even the popular sayings that a wise friend of mine reminded me of the other day and which I completely agree with: “what goes around comes around” or “you pick what you sow”.

The misuse of something or somebody by using them to one’s own advantage and to another’s disadvantage always has the consequences it deserves. Fortunately, anything that is not done in mutual benefit will generate the Law of Cause-Effect. And don’t get over-confident if it has worked for you so far, apparently without negative consequences, the Universe ALWAYS returns what you give, whether it is good or bad … at least that never fails.  Take care how you treat others, some day you’ll be treated the same way.

Beatriz Fernández del Castillo

http://www.autoevolucion.com

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After reading the last entry “Working on Happiness”, one of my readers called me and asked:

What happens if you have an objective, you work on it,  and it doesn’t turn out as you wished? It’s so frustrating … what happens to happiness then?

I don’t have all the answers, but I have worked with many people and I have come to the conclusion that what we were told about “ask and you shall receive” falls somewhat short. Asking is just the first step. If you set yourself a definite objective you must always bear in mind that you make decisions from where you stand at that moment and that you normally don’t know what lies ahead of you, what you will need,  what you will have to work on, what you will have to solve or sacrifice in order to reach your objective. Making and assuming the decision to “go for it no matter what happens” is just the beginning,  many simply drop it there.

Then we realise that as well as the objective and the results we want to reach, we must count on the necessary qualities that we will need to reach those results. What if I decide to be my own boss and work to make it true? Not only will I need an objective and an implementation plan, I will have to develop skills such as self-discipline, determination, work, observation,  preparation … and a great deal more qualities I will need to cover the way.  In order to reach success I will have to work on 20-30 patterns at least. Sometimes it is more important to ask the Universe for guidance in this sense than the actual results.

For example:  A part of me longs for the freedom of being my own boss, having my own business, but there are other parts of  me that can be incompatible with such objective, patterns I will discover, work on and re-program so that they may not block the physical manifestation of the circumstances, ideas and help that the Universe affords us when we have a plan. The energy of advance in these plans will be hindered by negative patterns such as fear of failure, fear of success, or a pattern of laziness, or one that makes me too hasty and therefore  makes me make too many mistakes so that I have to constantly rectify, or I may lack vision of the future, or I am careless with capital that I must invest,  or I chose the wrong collaborators or partners,  or I rush into things without a clear idea of what I want to contribute to the company, or I am afraid of risk, or I risk too much without giving it much thought …

It can also be that if we have had several attempts without success because of all those negative patterns,  we add what we already think and say about our own capacity as a result of our bad experience, such as: “I’m not good enough, I always botch it up,  there’s no point in my trying to do anything,  I always end up with people who let me down …”

On top of it, most people try to learn about the rules of society and yes, they are essential for advance, but we must also study the laws of Nature and of the Universe. If  we observe Nature and its laws we realise they are fair and balanced, Nature regulates itself. Whereas the laws of men are sometimes fair, but not always. The combination of both is what has mankind confused about what we should do in order to get things right  from the start, it is the reason why men don’t understand why the world is the way it is.

By constantly interfering with the laws of Nature and physical manifestation, men end up changing the rules of the game.  Thus, according to man’s criteria, in Nature  the best  is the master. But sometimes, in some human societies, it is stupidity, superficiality, selfishness, pettiness or violence that are most valued, thus removing the best individuals from power and decision-making, simply because the worst are the most valued.  The sole responsibility for this lack of  balance is man’s value system. The crisis of values we are going through is the result of the inability to value what is really important.

The best we can do is to get to know ourselves and understand which values and talents we need to achieve our objectives. If we set ourselves targets but we are not conscious that we need spiritual and psychological work and  tools as well as the physical and material ones, we can be in for a lot of frustration and discouragement.  A self-assessment is the mother of all blessings, and putting those blessings at the service of Nature is our duty.

Some people reach happiness and success by chance, sometimes it is only material, sometimes it is only spiritual, but because it is not  a conscious  happiness it’s unlikely to be  long lasting. Those who seek to experience it and share it on all  levels  -spiritual, mental, emotional and material-  have the worthiest possible objective, that of a soul in search of its own fulfilment.

If only we would take some of  Nature’s  ideas  to achieve this, if we finally decided to serve Nature and not exploit it, we would be doing a lot better.   Service  has a lot to do with our longed for happiness.

Beatriz Fernández del Castillo

http://www.autoevolucion.com

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